For those of you who have been following what’s been going on with my family (in the last five posts), you know my relationship with my family is pretty rocky and getting worse as they learn more about my identity and relationships.
I’m currently uncertain as to whether I will ultimately pursue an ongoing relationship with my parents. Right now, we’re back on somewhat-steady footing, and I’m not going to tell them anything new for now. I’m going to concentrate on healing up from this last mess with them, and trying to keep myself at an emotionally healthy distance.
I anticipate that when I tell my parents I am nonmonogamous and in two relationships, that may well be the last straw for them. Given that their treatment of me-as-nonconforming has been pretty awful so far, I think I will need to set some boundaries between us. I’m just not sure what, or how. You can call me when you can treat me, my partners, and my choices/autonomy with respect? We can stay in touch but not talk about anything gender/sexuality/relationship-related until you can do so respectfully? I don’t want to hear from you again?
I know I have several lovely Twitterfriends who have gone through similar with their parents. What boundaries did you set? How did you do it? How has it gone? Can you all help me?